A KEY TO EMOTIONS

By Ángela López The differences between us human beings is fascinating.   Unique and irremediably beautiful in our own way.   Unfortunately, it takes us years of painful experiences to reach the feeling of appreciation for ourselves. When I was a child I couldn't fit into any group, I just liked to be alone in my world, which consisted of reading, drawing and running around.   I hated it when anyone else tried to draw me into childhood activities, but on the other hand, when I saw someone suffering, I would step out of my bubble to try to help.   As I got older I developed something that from my point of view is the ability to step into other people's shoes. So, when a waiter or waitress is unkind, I simply imagine a lot of possibilities as to why they are being mean; then, to the bad attitude, I return a warm smile.   However, I am still a very lonely woman who enjoys little or no parties with friends or family gatherings. For many, I am arrogant, conceited, ...

By Ángela López Be yourself! This is undoubtedly one of the most powerful exhortations today, although for many it has become just another cliché.  Interestingly, despite the call for originality, the truth is that when something goes outside the conventional parameters, people get scared.  This is why some of us prefer to pretend or hide our true selves, so that we don't feel rejected, ridiculed or even abused emotionally and/or physically. Nowadays, lying is like a protective shield against the darts of antipathy and public scorn, because if you show yourself as you are, there will be a lot of birds of prey ready to devour your self-esteem.  Paradoxically, we admire great figures of the seventh art, when in reality each one of us has played an infinite number of roles to avoid losing friends, getting ambitious jobs or maintaining idyllic loves. Hypocrisy has become a matter of survival, no longer even an option. A famous enemy of Batman is known as Two-Face , but... ...

One of my favorite writers, Aldous Huxley said: "Indifference is a form of laziness, and laziness is one of the symptoms of disaffection. Nobody is lazy with what they love." I wonder, would it be possible that we are lazy to love ourselves? On other occasions, I have written about the importance of self-esteem, in order to strengthen self-confidence and develop an unwavering spirit that approaches us toward our purpose in life. But the truth is that having a strong self-esteem not only is a personal benefit, but also a progress contribution to the society. Let us think, if we breathe this perfect oxygen with a spirit of gratitude and also make ourselves aware of the millions of lessons to be learned, and the invaluable learning to be share with people; those who would really advance, it would be all of us. Since, if you are able to respect yourself, you will be able to respect others; if you know how much love you deserve, you will know how...